How to explain the birth of a solo mom – child family in a simple, loving, educational and fairy tale like way.
- Has your (donor conceived) child turned 2 and started to be interested in other children’s fathers?
- Has your child yelled “Dad” after the neighbor or an unknown man on the street?
Then the time has come to plant the first important seeds for “the talk” about how your child came into this world and that is exactly what this children’s book is designed to help you do.
It is important for all children to know the story of how they came into this world – it is a big piece of their identity.
A donor child’s story can be told in many different ways.
Tell your child the story of how he/she came to be, in a way so it will be a quite a cool thing.
This simple and sweet story focuses on what is there instead of what is not there.
In the book your child is introduced to a woman with a big heart full of love that she truly wants to give to a child.
Your child will experience other children’s fathers and different family types and will naturally begin to be interested in the concept “Dad”.
It can be painful to have to tell your child, “No, you do not have a Dad”. This book enables you to introduce the solo mom–child family type as an equal to other family types before you have “the daddy talk”.
The book is written for solo moms and their children.
Mommy and the Love Child is a helpful tool to tell your child about how he or she came into the world.
The book is especially for the youngest donor conceived children (2-5 years) that have questions for you as a mom – often before you expected these questions to arise.
Mommy and the Love Child can also be read to and by older children, and be used as a catalyst for important questions and conversations.
Mommy and the Love Child can be read by both boys and girls as it isn’t gender biased.
WHY SIGNE FJORD HAS WRITTEN THIS STORY ESPECIALLY FOR YOU AND YOUR CHILD:
Even though you feel comfortable in your decision to be a solo mom it can really shake you up the first time your child says “Dad” to a coincidental man.
This book gives you a specific step to take in this situation.
WHAT THE BOOK GIVES YOU AS A SOLO MOM:
- An easier way to tell the story and be honest and open about the creation of this type of family – and how natural it is.
- A liberating focus on what is, instead of what is not there (a dad for example).
- The book focuses on Mom being strong and following her heart to make her dream of becoming a mother come true.
- A conversation catalyst so you and your child can have “the talk” about how your child came into this world.
WHAT THE BOOK GIVES A (DONOR CONCEIVED) CHILD:
- Awareness that he or she is a love child.
- The first important seeds to appreciating the story of how he or she came into this world.
- An important understanding of the sperm donor’s role.
- Better prerequisites to feel normal and wanted – like all other children.
- Recognition, mirroring and understanding in day-to-day life.
- A reference frame so the child can share its own story with its surroundings and friends.
WHAT THE BOOK GIVES YOU AS A FAMILY:
- A fairy tale like story that can be read again and again – with a happy end of course! (Just like out in the real world as all research from Cambridge University shows).
- The message that the solo mom – child family type is a legitimate choice equal to other family types explained in a direct manner – just like children are used to communicating.
- A book with gorgeous and targeted illustrations that you both can mirror yourselves in.
WHY THE MOMMY AND THE LOVE CHILD CHILDREN’S BOOK IS SO IMPORTANT…
It shows you that it doesn’t have to be difficult to explain how your child came into this world.
In a simple and direct manner the story of how you as a strong, loving and brave woman had your child as a solo parent.
When you tell the story from an early stage in life you can avoid unnecessary confusion about your family type.
This e-book is richly illustrated with 11 gorgeous and targeted drawings and written in easy to understand sentences.
Mommy and the Love Child can be read on a tablet/smartphone/ computer / ebook reader or be printed out (collected as a 8 pages pdf-file).
You can download the book immediately and read it with your child today.
You can bring it with you anywhere on several units. Consider buying an extra copy for your child’s daycare, kindergarten or school.
PRAISE FOR MOMMY AND THE LOVE CHILD
Positive Portrayal of Choice Motherhood
Mommy and The Love Child is a delightful book that portrays one woman’s journey to Solo Motherhood. It very beautifully portrays a happy and fulfilled woman who has done everything she wants in life, except becoming a mother. So, knowing that it takes a sperm and an egg to make a baby, she shops online to find a sperm donor so she can become a mom and baby family. Simple, sweet, accurate. A real gem!
8. March 2017
Sarah Kowalski, motherhoodreimagined.com
Mommy and The Love Child – It’s simple and more true to our experience. No doctors involved, just choosing some sperm from an online shop. It’s very positive in the portrayal of the mother. I like that ‘she’d done everything she ever dreamed of – except becoming a mommy’.
27. September 2016.
Sophie Harper, www.notbyaccident.net
Both my mother and I have read your book Mommy and the Love Child… we both thought it was a sweet story and agree that it will be a help when my little Emma starts asking questions.
Lene, March 17. 2015
We have read Mommy and the Love Child every evening since my twin girls (age 3) received the book last weekend. We start with this book and finish with the teddy bear book. I think my girls are new to this topic since I haven’t previously talked to them about being donor children.We have talked about the fact that they do not have a dad.
They enjoy looking at the book and often page through it by themselves. I think the book plants some thoughts in them, but they haven’t asked any questions yet. When we read the book I try to relate the content and the drawings to Emma and Sanne.
The best drawing in the book is the one that show the different types of families, where we can see our type and some of the other family types that the girls have experienced in kindergarten like the twins with 2 moms. I am sure that the book has started a chain of thoughts in them, and I am actually looking forward to re-reading the book with them and hearing their questions. It will give me an insight in their thoughts – right now they just think I am silly when I ask them if they have a Dad.
Mette, MBA, solo mom to twins Emma and Sanne age 3.
THE TEAM BEHIND THE BOOK…
Signe Fjord (born 1974): Solo mom to Zinelle (born 2012). Master of Law, public speaker and mentor for single women considering becoming solo moms – author to “Solo Mom to a Donor Child – The Decision” and other unique products, blogger and expert in this field.
Mikkel Brandt-Møller (born 1974): Elementary school teacher – father of 2 and married – illustrator specialized in children’s books and Signe’s class mate from elementary school.